Self regulation is a hot button topic in our world. We are becoming more aware of the affects of constant stimulus on our bodies and our concentration. This interaction with our world comes from our senses, our emotions, other people, our impulses and reactions and our thoughts. As Dr. Stuart Shanker teaches, there are five formal domains of self-regulation:
- Biological – how well the child regulates her internal states and sensory stimulus’ like sight, sound, smells, touch and tastes.
- Emotional – how well the child identifies, monitors and modifies her emotional responses
- Cognitive – how well the child can sustain and switch her attention; inhibit impulses; deal with frustration, delay gratification, ignore distractions; sequence her thoughts
- Social – the child’s mastery of rules of socially appropriate behaviour; how well the child can co-regulate or help others to participate in social norms
- Pro-social – the desire and ability to develop and sustain relationships, support and care for others, act inclusively and be an engaged member of a community
Each domain builds on the others to help us stay calm, alert and focused. This is most easily learned while playing, being physically active and in close relationship with people who love us. Daddy and Me Gym Night and Families in Motion are monthly opportunities to practice all of these skills in a playful environment.
As I observed the play at Daddy and Me this month, I noticed examples of:
- children experiencing new sights, sounds, smells, tastes and textures, in a very stimulating enviroment
- kids and dads managing powerful feelings: excited, joyful, frustrated, sad, angry, scared
- taking turns, sharing toys, managing distractions, taking risks
- children mastering social rules and learning to help others learn those rules
- Playing, creating and problem solving with others, sharing and including others
Look closely at these photos and see if you can find clues of how these kids are learning to live happily in their bodies and in their community. This is not an easy task in the modern world.
As always, I am grateful to participate in a monthly event where so much learning takes place in such an authentic and fun environment. Please join us Wednesday, November 13th at Robert Ogilvie Gym.
FSJ LOVES Families Week runs Saturday, October 5th to Saturday, October 12th. Each year, the number and variety of family friendly events grows. Success by 6, Children First and the North Peace Savings and Credit Union have once again sponsored and coordinated this amazing opportunity to celebrate our strongest natural resource, families. Hope to see you out and about with your family!
To download and print this poster, click FSJ LOVES FAMILIES WEEK 2013
To download and print this schedule of events, click PASSPORT TO FAMILY FUN 2013
Here are some community opportunities available to families in September and October. These programs are all coordinated by Pam Lillico, ECE extraordinare. You can meet Pam at the Child Development Centre or at North Peace Community Resources Society.
To download or print this poster, click Nobody’s Perfect Parenting
To download or print this poster, click Family Place Fall Poster
To download or print this poster, click September 2013 RPC Calendar
Our last Daddy and Me events before the summer break are fast approaching. The visit to Heartbreak Acres is always a big hit.
To download or print this poster, please click Daddy and Me June 2013
Please remember that Daddy and Me is a dads and male caregivers only monthly event.
Both May events are early in the month. Hope we’ve given you enough notice. As always, these events are FREE and drop-in. Come when you can; Pam and Jaimelia are always happy to see you.
To download and print this poster, click Daddy and Me May 2013
As, always, we celebrate the importance of dads in healthy families. Whether this program suits your family or not, we hope to increase awareness about how AWESOME dads are. Dads matter for many reasons but here’s a moving post about Why Dads Matter – Especially for Girls
Dads are also more likely to play physically than moms. This could be rough and tumble play, object play or tag. This is a generalization but it is another facet of how dads can support kids. This blog post from the CBC describes how a simple game of catch can layer in life skills for your kids. Physical activity helps kids build life skills.
Dr. Martin Brokenleg’s work on belonging, Dr. Richard Neufeld’s on attachment, Dr. Stuart Shanker’s on self-regulation and Mary Gordon’s Roots of Empathy program all resonate with me when working with children or raising my own kids. Belonging, attachment, self-regulation and empathy are all pillars of success in children’s lives; they build resiliency.
Monique Gray Smith is presenting on these topics, specifically with respect to Aboriginal children, on May 9th in Dawson Creek. This is a high caliber opportunity at a very low cost.
To download and print this poster, click The Ripple Effect of Resiliency
Many Family Place programs are winding down. But Parent/Child Mother Goose and Daddy and Me contintue until June. Drop by.
To download or print this poster, click 2013 April-June Poster
The schedule for Daddy and Me is confirmed until December 2013. We are entering our seventh year of events around the community and the third year of gym nights. Many thanks to Pam at The Family Place for her ongoing coordination and enthusiasm.
To download or print this calendar, click April – Dec 2013 Daddy and Me Calendar
For more information please contact:
Pam Lillico at The Family Place 785-6021 ext.232
Jaimelia Turner at SD60 262.6040
As usual, both events this month are active, creative and open ended. Our objective with Daddy and Me is to celebrate dads and all that they bring to the lives of children. Obviously not all dads participate in these type of events but we hope that all dads recognize the importance of a male role model in the lives of young people. Whatever your active play looks like, do it early and often with the little people in your life.
Here is an excerpt from the blog LiveScience on The Science of Fatherhood: Why Dads matter
What’s most important, [researcher Laura] Padilla-Walker said, is that fathers realize they matter. Quality time is important, she said. “That doesn’t mean going on fancy vacations. It can be playing ball in the backyard or watching a movie with your kids,” she said. “Whatever it is, just make yourself available and when you’re with your children, be with them.”
To download or print this poster, click Daddy and Me March 2013.
We hope to see you at one or both events. The schedule for the rest of the year is on hold until funding is secured. For more information, contact Pam Lillico at North Peace Community Resources. 250.785.6021 ext. 232.
This is a repost from January 23rd. Please take a look!
The 6th parent conference is Saturday, March 9th at North Peace Secondary School. There are a few interesting twists this year.
- Attend alone or with your children. You can bring your kids 3+ years and older. Either register them for child minding (3 – 5 years), enter them in the Fun Fair (6 – 12 years) or attend sessions together (various ages 10+).
- Attend 1, 2 or all 3 sessions. No obligation to stay all day.
- Traditional keynote has been replaced by energizing activities in the gym to stimulate your thinking and “grow” your brain.
And as usual, it’s all FREE! There are many door prizes and give aways for participants. Many thanks to our sponsors Success by 6, Children First, Child Care Resource and Referral and School District 60.
There are sessions for many interests including:
- online safety
- art journalling
- oral language development
- play based learning
- quad and outdoor recreational safety
- physical literacy
- understanding challenging behaviours
- AND MANY MORE
Download the registration package for more information then register online. If you prefer, you can fill out a paper copy and fax it to Pat Lang, 250.785.6123 or drop it off at any SD60 school.
Click here to download the 2013 Parent Conference Registration Package
Click here to register online 2013 Parent Conference Online Registration