FSJ LOVES Families Week runs Saturday, October 5th to Saturday, October 12th. Each year, the number and variety of family friendly events grows. Success by 6, Children First and the North Peace Savings and Credit Union have once again sponsored and coordinated this amazing opportunity to celebrate our strongest natural resource, families. Hope to see you out and about with your family!
The School District is partnering with Success by Six/Children First and ChildCare Resource and Referral to present the Families R.O.C.K. Parenting Series. We will be hosting monthly workshops for parents/caregivers, ECE professionals, educators, service providers, counsellors and practitioners.
The first session is October 5. The title is “An iPad is so much more than a toy.”
Learn how mobile or “tablet” technology can provide structured learning activities on a highly motivating platform. Work with Speech and Language Pathologist, Lynn Mathiesen, to utilize this tool to its full potential. The target ages are 2 – 12 years old.
For more information or to register, call Alwin Holland Elementary 250.785.6125
Following feedback from parents, we have been able to juggle our staffing to improve our StrongStart hours. Both Duncan Cran StrongStart and Robert Ogilvie StrongStart are now open every morning, Monday – Friday, from 8:30 – 11:30 am. Please check out the new calendars and drop into our newly renovated centres.
Here are some community opportunities available to families in September and October. These programs are all coordinated by Pam Lillico, ECE extraordinare. You can meet Pam at the Child Development Centre or at North Peace Community Resources Society.
Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about how kids gain self confidence and resilience. Today, when my kids balked at walking home from school, I started thinking again about empowerment and the value of “grit”. Like most parents, I spend a lot of time worrying about my kids’ future. I want them to be successful. In that desire to support them, I tend to want to make their lives easier and shower them with love. But this can be counter productive.
Carol Dweck, a psychologist and author, has shown that people need determination more than talent. They need a belief in their own ability to learn more than they need smarts. We need a strong belief that we can succeed, if we persevere. To do this, we need a lot less empty praise and more practice solving problems and overcoming obstacles. Praise can diminish motivation to persevere when things are tough.
So I’ve started changing my way of thinking about “supporting” my kids and the children I work with. Instead of making everything easy for them or praising them constantly, I want to get out of the way of their problem solving. Dweck’s book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success has encouraged me to be a dificilitator in my children’s lives. The is a play on words from the French word, difficile, or hard. It means to create obstacles or hardships for my kids to overcome.
Walking home today is one example. I could pick them up. I’m just at home writing this blog post. But for me, in this small way, I want to offer them the challenge of getting home. Then, ironically, I found this article today about grit and physical fitness. It complements my new thinking about resilience.
Walking home may not be a good fit for your kids or it may be something you already do every day. We are all on a different journey. But I challenge you to be a difficiltator for a child today and to resist praise for motivation’s sake.
As, always, we celebrate the importance of dads in healthy families. Whether this program suits your family or not, we hope to increase awareness about how AWESOME dads are. Dads matter for many reasons but here’s a moving post about Why Dads Matter – Especially for Girls
Dads are also more likely to play physically than moms. This could be rough and tumble play, object play or tag. This is a generalization but it is another facet of how dads can support kids. This blog post from the CBC describes how a simple game of catch can layer in life skills for your kids. Physical activity helps kids build life skills.
Usually it is April when we see a resurgence of families at StrongStart due to the milder weather. Although we are still getting a healthy number of families attending, we are still waiting for the spring rush. Hopefully May brings us some sunny days and above zero temperatures. Ha! Hope to see you soon!
The schedule for Daddy and Me is confirmed until December 2013. We are entering our seventh year of events around the community and the third year of gym nights. Many thanks to Pam at The Family Place for her ongoing coordination and enthusiasm.